Food for the Soul: “When We Are Tested”

Family you know that the SC is not just about natural hair and fitness, but also abundant living!  In order to Live Life to the FULLEST you have to feed your soul with words of wisdom and suggestions on how to further enjoy life.  The below was written by Mr. Steven Dante Jones, reminding us that through all test GOD’s plan for you will prevail.  Stay encouraged and make sure to read, reflect and shaire.  The orAKAle has spoken……

When we are tested by the storms and trials in life, sometimes more than we can bear, it is important that we be willing to grow to a high level of faith and maturity. The same faith and maturity we had yesterday my not by enough for the situation today. To have peace during though situations in life we must be willing to mature and grow spiritually. We must be strong. We must always remember that our life and our situation is in God’s hands, not our hands. We must always remember the same God that is with us when thing are good, will be the same God that is with us when things are bad. We must be patient knowing  God’s help is on the way. My Faith and my maturity could be the difference between things getting better or worse. When my faith and maturity is in full bloom, by the grace of God, I will be ready for anything strong in character.

When the storms of life come my way, and they will, the devil and the enemy will work in mischievous ways, but what matters is how well I handle them. I will have peace in the storms because I’m confident that God will be with me every step of the way. There is no sickness or disease that God cannot cure. There is no situation or circumstance that God cannot fix. He is everything I need. He is Jehovah Jiren, my provider (Genesis 22:14). He is Jehovah Nissi, my battle fighter (Exodus 17:15). He is Jehovah Shalom, my giver of peace (Judges 6:24). He is Jehovah Rophe, my healer (Exodus 15:26). He is Jehovah Tsidkenu, my righteousness (Jeremiah 23:6). He is Jehovah Shammah, my ever present one (Ezekiel 48:35). He is Jehovah Rohi, my good shepherd (Psalm 23:1). My health, children, husband, relatives, job, finances, personal life, friends, church, whatever it may be; the fault is of my own when I allow something or someone to rob me of my God given joy. God has granted me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the battle is not mine, it’s Gods, courage to change the things I can and wisdom to know the difference.

Many things happen to us far beyond what the human eye or mind can understand, but God can. What the enemy intends to do bad and evil, God can turn into joy and good when I am tested.

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Product Review: Carol’s Daughter “Healthy Hair Butter”

Shout out to ms KeysKorner for giving me some off this product. I’ve been meaning to order, but never got around to it; but low and behold my girl had a 4 oz tub of CD’s Healthy Hair Butter this in her PJ closet!  Lol.  My review is below…

Ingredients list: Water (Aqua), Glycine Soja (Soybean) Oil, Zea Mays (Corn) Oil, Beeswax, Butyrospermum Parkii (Shea Butter), Prunus Amygdalus Dulcis (Sweet Almond) Oil, Theobroma Cacao (Cocoa) Seed Butter, Simmondsia Chinensis (Jojoba) Seed Oil, Triticum Vulgare (Wheat) Germ Oil, Fragrance (Parfum), Ascorbic Acid, Xantham Gum, Potassium Sorbate

yes I'm in the bathroom....#dontjudgeme

This conditioning hair dress is made for all hair types.  It is rich in all the good stuff and is creamy (not greasy).  The site references that it helps to minimize breakage, controls frizz and will load your hair with all the necessary nutrients needed to be healthy.  As always, we love the fact that this heavenly hair cream is free of mineral oils and an artificial anything!  This product can be used for protective styling, wash n go’s and also a light sealer for you coils.

Silky Coils Thoughts….

Overall I like the product…especially for it has my fav Shea Butter.  While it states on the site that its non greasy….I would slightly disagree. If used sparingly, depending on your hair type, you may see some residue on your sheets, hair accessories and hopefully not the clothing.  As you all may know, I have a heavy hand so the first time I used was entirely to much. Lol. BUT one thing I can say that if you use this product, you may not need a pomade, etc in the morning for styling….well at least ya girl didn’t 🙂

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loosely fluffed...in bad lighting

For my type 4 haired beauties, this is definitely  a hot pick for keeping your kinks and coils moisturized and sealed. For my type 3 haired lovelies, I think it will depend on the grade of your hair. I’ve had some who said that it was to thick and sat literally on top of the hair, and others who swear by it…but only YOU know your hair and what it likes. Either way, I think its definitely a good product to have in the stash.  I’m not sure if I would add this to my summer time product list, but to each its own!

The orAKAle has spoken…………………….

Related post: Determining Your Hair Type, For the Love of Shea, Summertime is Here!


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“Sowing Good Seeds”

I usually do not post this much in a week; but I received this on time message from a Soror. I had to post and share this meditation from a fav of mine Joel and Victoria Osteen.  Many things are going on in my family, and I am sure in yours that this will bless you. Please read, reflect and share as you see fit.  The orAKAle has spoken…..

Sowing Good Seeds

TODAY’S SCRIPTURE

“Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. Whoever sows to please their flesh, from the flesh will reap destruction; whoever sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life”
(Galatians 6:7–8, NIV)

TODAY’S WORD from Joel and Victoria

Whether you realize it or not, everything you are experiencing in your life today is a direct result of the seeds you’ve sown in your past. Today, you are planting seeds for the harvest in your future. Just as the farmer expects a crop from the seeds he sows, we can expect a harvest from the seeds we’ve sown, good or bad. That’s why we have to be deliberate about the seeds we are sowing. We have to wake up every day and set our minds on God’s Word and choose to speak His truth over our lives. We have to constantly evaluate our actions to make sure we are depositing good seeds so we can reap a good harvest in the future.

Why don’t you take some time right now to ask theHoly Spirit to search your heart and mind? See if there are any negative seeds that you’ve sown in the past that need to be uprooted. Be deliberate about planting the Word of God in the soil of your heart. Sow good seeds into your future so you can reap the harvest of blessing God has designed for you!

A PRAYER FOR TODAY

Father God, thank You for the system of sowing and reaping. Thank You for giving me good seed to sow! I ask that You search my heart and mind and show me where to sow my seed so I can reap the abundant harvest You have for me. In Jesus’ Name. Amen.

— Joel & Victoria Osteen

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Journaey to Naturality: Diamond Princess

Ms Diamond Princess talks about her hair journey, and offers insight to any newly naturals out there…can you say DIVA!

Age: 21
 
When and Why did you decide to go natural: -I decided to go natural in 2006. I was rocking this hairstyle that required me to color and perm my hair very frequent. It goes without saying that because I permed my hair so much it became extremely damaged. I decided to rock a fade. After about 2 years I wanted to see how long my hair could get now that it was healthy. I permed my hair and it look fabulous. However, after about 3 months I grew bored and cut my hair off again. And I’ve been natural since then. Now I have locks and I absolutely love them.

 
 
What products do you use: I use the Jamaican Rasta Locks & Twists product line and Aphogee Protein Shampoo & Conditioner (twice a year)
 
 
The good and the bad (if any) about your decision: The pros of having natural hair is the way your hair shines, the rate my hair has been growing, and just the way my hair feels. Since I became natural my hair looks and feels amazing. I know when I was constantly perming and coloring my hair, my ends were split and texture of my hair was very brittle. I would have to saturate my hair with oils and moisturizers just for it to appear remotely decent. My hair has always grew at a fairly decent rate however since I have been natural I went from a fade to shoulder lengths locks in ONE YEAR! It’s crazy. I can’t think of any cons.
 
 

 
 
Advice to newbies and those on the fence: Love your hair not matter the length or texture. Love it! Being natural has its moments. Your hair will be unpredictable and won’t do what you want it to do but it’s just a phase. Once you truly get to understand your hair and what works for hair you will LOVE LOVE LOVE YOUR HAIR!!!
 


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Lost in Translation

The “Diversity Day” episode of the Office emphasize multicultural training and Michael who is played by comedian Steve Carrel instructed his staff to participate in the exercise “Name that Stereotype”.  The intent of the exercise was to enhance his staff’s cultural competencies.  Although the episode was extremely funny, in reality, I’ve often found myself in situations similar to that portrayed.  The multicultural training session was intended to enhance cultural awareness and was geared towards “stomping out stereotypes”, by playing upon the many historical views WE have of our melting pot society.  Following that vein of thought, multicultural training is the cure for our organizational ailments.  Coupling that with the prevailing notion that after completion of the training, employees will automatically become more aware of the impact of their actions and when appropriate, make positive changes to their behavior, or it represents a magic wand and when waved, “WALA”… employees are deemed culturally competent.   The  desired outcomes employee satisfaction, increased productivity, or if deemed one of the more “privileged” minority groups, the pleasure of representing your cultural group and educating the masses…..nothing couldn’t be further from the truth…

I can imagine the pressure Kelly, the young women featured towards the end of the episode, must have felt when faced with the expectation that she would represent her cultural group during the multicultural awareness/training session.  The fact that departments recognize the value of developing cultural awareness, knowledge and skills is commendable.  However, the answer to developing cultural competency in the work place is not as simple as applying band-aide solutions or canned programs that play upon hurtful and demeaning stereotypes.  The way conflict is perceived and addressed in the workplace often times is reflective of the individual’s culturally based attitudes and beliefs.  Multicultural training is only one approach to resolving the types of issues that arise in diverse organizations.  Training can positively affect an organization’s awareness of those who are different in their climate and increase knowledge of how different cultures interact in the group is also very useful in identifying and developing the skills needed to perform duties/tasks required of a position.  Although culture is the biggest indicator of how individuals will handle conflict in the work place, recent studies suggest that focusing on an experiential learning approach of building cultural competences and increasing awareness and knowledge of differing cultural groups is critical to the development of the skill sets needed for our global society.


The Office “Diversity Day” episode highlighted the multicultural training minefield that all organizations must maneuver.  I’m a firm believer that discrimination and any type of “ism” should be called out and addressed head on.  This course on Leadership however has brought home to me that how you handle the situation is equally as important.  While the manager, Michael, in the Office episode may have had good intentions, the desired outcome was not achievable with the training model used and the skills sets and cultural competencies obtained would be short lived.

It is my desire to have a positive impact on the climate of any organization to which I’m affiliated and assist in the development of our future leaders.  I intend to continue to develop and refine my cultural competency and use my influence to foster an environment that is inclusive and appreciative of the multitudes of differences that comprise our world.

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Product Review: Oyin Handmade Hair Products

This week I received and used my trial size of Oyin Homemade Products. While I’m aware that they have an array of products for all my naturals, I’ve chosen to review several of their popular products below:

Honey Hair Wash – a moisturizing mild hair wash with all the good stuff! Ingredients includes: saponified organic oils of coconut, olive, and jojoba, glycerine/vegetable gum extract, organic aloe vera gel, honey, jojoba oil, walnut oil, grapefruit seed and green tea extracts, rosemary extract, fragrance.

Honey Hemp Conditioner – a creamy rinse-out conditioner to make your hair feel soft and manageable after any cleansing. Ingredients includes: purified water, organic aloe vera gel, behentremonium methosulfate (emulsifier derived from colza oil), honey, virgin hemp oil, , coconut oil, vegetable glycerine, hydrolized silk, citrus essences, fragrance, optiphen (preservative)

Greg Juice – the GOOD stuff that will leave your hair smelling great, moisturized and provides slip for any detangling session. Ingredients includes: purified water infused with horsetail, lavender, nettle, roses, and chamomile; organic flaxseeds; aloe vera juice; vegetable glycerine; essences of lavender, sweet orange, ylang ylang; grapefruit seed extract; citric acid. It is naturally preserved with grapefruit seed extract and citric acid.

Shine & Define Styling Serum – a non greasy cream that you can use to refresh your hair daily, along with giving you that shine all day. Ingredients include: purified water, organic flax seeds, organic aloe vera gel, sea vegetable complex, coconut oil, castor oil, unrefined shea butter, raw honey, vegetable glycerine, palm stearic acid, vegetable emulsifying waxes, fruit pectin, xanthan gum, dextrose, optiphen (preservative), citrus essential oils; fragrance.

Whipped Pudding – this dense moisturizing cream can be used to twist, braid, coil, etc. It provides your hair with all the oils and butters needed to protect the hair, maintain styles and shine! Ingredients include: purified water, shea butter, organic aloe vera gel, cocoa butter, castor oil, coconut oil, sweet almond & olive oils, vegetable emulsifier, beeswax, palm stearic acid, vegetable glycerine, honey, optiphen (preservative), fragrance.

Silky Coils Thoughts….

It is recommended that all products be used 3-12 moths within purchasing; so as always use your best judgment when using over a period of time.  Also you will notice that these products range in cost starting at $6 (can’t beat that).  I used all of the above products in order as recommended by the website within 3 weeks of ordering. I wasn’t impressed with the honey wash and hemp conditioner. My coils felt a little thirsty after using. Again, I only used these products during this wash so I am not sure if Oyin plays well with others…but to be safe I did not substitute other hair care lines while doing this routine.

I chose to dilute the Greg Juice as my leave in spray and for my detangling session…it didn’t help. For my SC family who follows me on twitter, you may remember me saying that I had the WORSE detangling session ever this week. This was after using the wash, conditioner and Greg Juice. The whipped pudding and shine & define, however, came to my rescue. I decided to do a dry twist out set and it turned out heavenly!

picture is after sleeping on it

Overall, I give Oyin Handmade Products a B-. I suggest purchasing the trial size of the wash, conditioner and any of the juices and berry products. If anything, I would definitely recommend the Whipped Pudding and the Shine & Define for any and all naturals. My hair felt soft, smelled great and was VERY manageable. Also the ingredients for both are to die for; and you can rest assured that your hair is well protected with these two products.

The orAKAle has spoken…………………….

Related post: Determining Your Hair Type, For the Love of Shea, Tips for Growing Healthy Hair

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Tips for Growing Healthy Hair

I love when I get this question; for their is never ONE true answer to it.  Having healthy hair (be it natural or chemically processed) takes time, patience and a little TLC.  Longevity should be a factor when trying to reset your hair health; along with a willingness to learn new things.  On my journey to a more healthier Silky Coils, I soaked up as much information on wellness in general while pursuing natural healthy hair bliss.

I know the list is long, but I’ve been waiting to post this after doing more research, trial and error and speaking to YOU the SC Family on what you wanted to know. So I present to you my tips for growing healthy hair:

Hydration – If you’ve done ANY research on being overall healthy, you will find that keeping your body hydrated is key. The same would go for having healthy hair. Water makes up a fourth of the weight of a strand of hair, so when you drink the proper amount for YOUR body type, naturally your hair will respond by being supple, and shiny!  I always suggest a minimum of 8 servings (8 fl ounces) a day.

Vitamin and Supplements – I plan to post a separate entry regarding these, but I did want to include them on this list.  Yes there are many hair supplements you can take (i.e. Biotin) to help stimulate growth and prepare your hair; BUT simply taking a daily multivitamin can also do the trick.  Our bodies needs nutrients to function properly on a daily basis…this also includes proper growth of your hair.  Depending on your health needs, you can find a suitable multivitamin that will not only assist in daily functions but also hair growth and repair.  Personally, I take Centrum Ultra Women’s.  If you do not take a multivitamin……START IMMEDIATELY!!! It may save your life

Control Stress Levels – CRAZY I know, but interesting enough your stress levels effect not only your overall health, but also your hair.  When we get stressed our physiological levels rise and can either stop hair growth or cause hair loss?  During this time, your hair follicles go into a resting phase cause a reduction in growth and sometimes loss.  Some of us control it better than others; but if your like me…my stress can get pretty out of control during high priority times of the year.  So ways to combat stress can be found here.

Food Intake – Long time SC family has heard me speak about this before – you have to be cognizant on what your putting inside your body.  Everything that goes in, has to come out some how; and eating nutrition foods will aid in repairing (or rebooting) the hair follicle AND stimulate growth.  Some recommended nutrients found in our food, to grow healthy hair include (but are not limited to): Proteins, Iron, B Vitamins, Essential Fatty Acids, Vitamin E and Sulfur.  It is also suggested to stay away from foods that are sugary, loaded with fat, caffeine based and carbonated for they can cause a lot of damage to our hair!

Styling/Products – First, if you haven’t’ read my post on Determining Your Hair Type you may want to first take a look before you go on. You can’t stimulate growth or achieve health with your coils if you have no clue what type of hair you have.  From there, you can find many resources on what products work best for YOUR hair.  I’m a type 4 diva, so I like products that are loaded with ingredients like Shea Butter, Aloe, Rosemary oil, etc; for I know for me, these ingredients protect my hair through any weather AND maximize growth.  As for styling, some general rules is to always keep it moisturized, utilizing protective styling and retain hair, add hair utensils that will aid in your daily matriculation of the hair not damage it; and finally to make an effort to wrap your hair at night OR use a satin pillow case to not cause damage and breakage as you sleep (I can’t stress this enough).

License Stylists are our Friends– Family, you all would be surprised how many people I run into who believe that with the proper ingridients, tools and the web they can be their own stylist…..NEGATIVE. While I pride myself on being able to better manage my hair in the comfort of my home…for FREE, I also see the importance of having a professional examine my hair.  Even though I’ve recently embarked on trimming my own ends (that’s a whole other post for another day…lol), I also make sure to see my stylist every few months to get my “art work” checked and correct if needed.

Do your research – How you think I created this list….lol.  Seriously, while reading blogs are nice and convenient, it is critical that you do your own research regarding what will work for you. I can name off at least 20 blogs/articles I found and was reading, but it wasn’t until I did my OWN trial and error after researching what I was embarking on.  There are many books, websites and stylist out there who are willing to assist.  If you haven’t done so already, take a few minutes to learn your hair type and what type of product ingredients and styling tools work for YOU.

the orAKAle has spoken…..

Sources: Stress Related Hair Loss in Women, Foods that Promote Hair Growth, Benefits of Salon Hair Care, Benefits of Multivitamins, Grow Afro Hair Long
Related posts: Benefits of Shea, Hair Types, Detoxification

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